Emma Plows is a 37 year old mother with Bipolar.
“I have Bipolar, it doesn’t have me!” says she.
Emma has been married for 18 years and has two teenage boys with Autism.
Today I have the honour to talk with Emma about her book ‘Autistic blessings and Bipolar me.: A frank and brutally honest diary of a mother with Bipolar and her two Autistic boys’.
- First of all, who exactly is Emma Plows?
“In February 2007 I was diagnosed with Bipolar type one after a long battle with post-natal depression, where I was hospitalised numerous times. Throughout the period between 2004 to 2009 myself Noah and Moses were all given a diagnosis of something life changing, but as a mother I refused to be labelled and judged by a medical condition. I am Emma Plows; I am not Emma Plows with Bipolar.”
- Could you please tell me more about your book?
“My book is my diary so it’s literally the way I felt at the time. Brutally honest and the odd naughty word now and then.
My book is a memoir and should appeal to anyone who has encountered mental illness, grief or Autism.
It’s my understanding that when you discover your child is on the autistic spectrum you really need to accept the diagnosis. Accept it, let it grow and don’t hinder its development. Autistic people cannot understand how the world works like we can and have difficulty understanding how people think, but we can. We have that capacity to understand them, if we choose too we should take advantage of that capacity.
“I have Bipolar, it doesn’t have me!”
If we don’t accept that our children are autistic, then we are only condemning ourselves and our children to a life of frustrating misery. Work with it, not against it, it doesn’t matter why they behave the way they do as we cannot change it, but we must find the beauty in the condition and all the positives it has to offer, if we try, it gets easier and can become very rewarding.”
- How did you decide to pursue a writing career?
“I suppose I became a writer by accident. I have dyslexia, I take powerful medication for my Bipolar and my sons need a lot of support so becoming a writer was never on the agenda. Whilst I was ill, years back, I started to write a diary, to put down on paper what I really felt. I felt that as soon as the words hit the paper the negative feelings belonged to the paper and not me.”
- Was getting published hard?
“I tried to get published by a publisher but I was knocked back so many times I thought now is the time to just do it. Just go it alone and tell my story. I wanted other parents to know that they are allowed to be ill but they shouldn’t feel guilty. Look after yourself to ensure your family are well too.”
- Do you have a specific writing routine?
“I can write at any time of the day and usually just with paper and a pencil. I like the sound a pencil makes.”
- What’s next for you?
“I’m currently writing my second book, The Autism chronicles which explains many other parents’ experiences of the Autism assessment process.”
Autistic Blessings and Bipolar me.: “A frank and brutally honest diary from a mother with Bipolar and her two Autistic boys”
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